Monday Motivation, Inspiration, Activism for Women, Women Entrepreneurs and Females in 2018
In three days, 300+ women from all over New York State – upstate and downstate – will gather in Rochester, New York for the first of three consecutive annual women’s equality conferences leading up to America’s Suffrage Centennial in 2020. Women still have not gained equality in many areas so its essential they continue to rise up, like they did on January 20, 2017 at the Women’s March on Washington, to empower each other, listen to inspirational female speakers, network with their sisters and walk away motivated to stay active in areas of female inequality. I hope you read this re-post of my blog post written after the 2017 March to inspire you to sign up for the event this week! Women, we need you there. Click here to learn more or register for the event.
January 2017 – Insights on the Women’s March in Washington
“She believed she could, so she did,” is the saying on the bracelet on my left arm given to me by my friend worn all the way to the Women’s March on DC and back. Not only did I believe but so did the 110 women who traveled with me via bus with an friendly bus driver who performed a light show for us as we sang Donna Summer songs when the trip got long.
After landing in Fredrick, Maryland for the night before the March, I threw a dinner reception for all these women who did not know each other. Some were in their 70s, a few in the 20s, some African American and some white, a few were Jewish and others Catholic but we instantly bonded over one cause, one heart beat and in unity. A dance party broke out which most women took part in until the hotel manager made me shut it down. Only women would dance together in song so joyously.
The father of two girls and wife who were in the next room, told me they were marching for women’s rights and asked if their family could join us. Next thing I knew I was dancing with 12 and 9 year old sisters smack dab in the middle of our big dance circle. “Y.M.C.A.” played and the two girls happily danced in the center of the circle of grown up women. At the end, I gave them both shirts and told them to continue to fight for what they believe in from this age forward. They hugged me three times and hopped off to bed because they were getting up at 4 a.m. to go to the march. You would have thought Santa Claus was coming to town.
The next morning after boarding a train to DC at the end of the Shady Grove Metro line, I struck up a conversation with two twenty year old college students from Maryland traveling in to stand up for “human rights”. We shared our hopes and dreams during the 30 minute train ride. They became new sisters in solidarity.
Then we stood, marched, held up signs, spoke to old women, young women, young girls and men all with different reasons for attending. We witnessed a group holding a 6’ long pink yarn uterus for a woman’s right to choose. We shouted up to a Canadian women in the tree with her daughter telling us we could move to Canada if things didn’t work out in the USA. We broke into chants, songs, hymns, and hugs with people we did not know.
In front of the Capitol Building, I ran into my ESPNW contact and was interviewed about the importance of supporting female athletes and why equal pay for women counts. Later that night the video was aired. In it you’ll see the enthusiasm that jumped into the interview with me – other women. I embraced it. It was about sisterhood – energetic, happy, sisterhood.
On the train ride home, I sat with a young transgender youth who proudly told me she had changed her gender. He was 15. Next to him was a young girl in the arts. They both told me about why they marched on Washington and their dreams. They shared photos with me. We hugged as we departed and I told them to keep up their own dreams and fights. They thanked me and went on their way. My heart was changed forever in that moment. People are good. Children are good. Our future will be good because of them.
I returned home with a much larger pink heart than I ever had before – and that is saying something after 22 years of serving, promoting and inspiring women in New York State – and a new urgency to create a larger company that has four distinct divisions – one for business, one for sports, one for equality and one for life – all for women. I will hire women to help me so we can spread our message stronger from this day forward. I know I can do it because, “I believe and I will.”
Women Benefit from Taking Risks
Inspiration and Wisdom for women, women entrepreneurs, female athletes, females
Perhaps I became a risk taker at the age of five when my parents put me and my sister in a pair of skies and took us down our first bunny hill to learn their passion of skiing. I don’t remember being scared or nervous about it because children like trying new things. The picture of me above with my sister Jill (on the left) on skies with smiles on our faces shows you we weren’t nervous.
Many years later at the age of 15 when I decided to be really brave, I choose to ski the big moguls I always avoided on one of the hills. I committed with all my heart to only skiing moguls that day. I wouldn’t stop. I wouldn’t get scared. I was committed! I started off with a popular Michael McDonald song in my head “Ride Like the Wind” (click here to hear the song) and kept singing it to myself until my knees just couldn’t hit one more big bump! Did I fall? No I did not. I rode those mounds like the wind. At the end of the day, I felt like a superstar having taken a risk riding moguls all day. To be honest with you, I never had the courage again to ski them! Isn’t that funny?
I believe learning how to ski, sail a boat, enter swim races and challenge my best friend Lynda to a tennis set now and again knowing she would beat me, taught me how to be a risk taker. As these athletic endeavors challenged my young spirit, it spilled over into my young business self, when I needed money I knocked on my neighbors doors to seek out employment. They were kind and gave me many odd jobs – pulling grass out between bricks, polishing silver, ironing clothes, and babysitting. I learned if I needed money, I had to work for it and I couldn’t be shy about asking people who had money to hire me. Every time I knocked on a door to ask for a job, I was risk taking. I never worried about it.
When I started both of my companies, entered the Boston Marathon, landed television interviews and speaking engagements, I felt the thrill that risk taking brings with every single experience. As I entered my fifties I wasn’t ready to quit being a risk-taker so I took 110 women to the Women’s March on Washington, stood strong in my feminists beliefs, challenged male norms and kept taking on new athletic tests like signing up for my first triathlon on September 15th at the age of 53 with my sister Jill and inviting women entrepreneurs to join me zip lining for the first time on September 10th as we kick-off a new Fall business season with bold thoughts and actions.
If you are looking for a really big risk and once-in-a-life time experience, join my sisters at Team 261 Fearless and run the New York City Marathon on November 4th. They still have some charity bibs left. Click here to find out more. If there is one risk I am so glad I took that changed my life, it was running in the Boston Marathon with Team 261Fearless.
So this weekend when you contemplate what to do or if you are looking into a new business year after Labor Day, take big and small risks to get your blood pumping and your spirit exhilarated! Because here are some of the benefits of taking risks: unforeseen opportunities may arise, an opportunity to pursue success, create confidence and develop new skills, develop mental toughness and be more joyful. I sure am!
Wednesday Wisdom: Sharing What’s Uniquely You
Wednesday Wisdom and Inspiration for Women, Women Entrepreneurs, Female Business Owners, Female Athletes
Every woman I know is motivated by a sense of purpose and mission. An individual’s unique focus comes from many places such as parental influences, personal hardships, fateful moments and happenstance. This is true for businesswomen, female athletes, successful actresses and award winning professionals.
What I have gathered from meeting with 20 women entrepreneurs this summer by my pool for two hour personal and business chats and also interviewing 20 high level female athletes to talk about inequality of women in sports, is every woman’s purpose has been born out of unique experiences setting them on a personal journey.
What was also relevant from these discussions was the similarities in how defeat and setbacks in life spurred a deep resolve to turn their circumstances around and commit to success. In 2018, women still fight to earn the same as men in the workplace, to gain the same media exposure in sports and generally fight for their liberties. It’s no wonder the women I meet are so determined to achieve success in some way.
Women really can’t stop fighting because we still have a long way to go. It’s a reason I hope you’ll consider attending the First Ever Women’s Equality Weekend with me on August 23-26th in Rochester. There you will find like minded women who share their experiences as well as goals they have to make a large impact on the world for women. All the speakers are female and they come from backgrounds including higher education, high courts, political positions, entrepreneurs, long time feminists, authors and performers.
If you still see or face inequality as a female, I hope you consider meeting me at this event. I’ll be speaking on Saturday at a workshop I created called, “Impacting The World With Your Pink Light” where women will discover what moves their feminist heart, determine how to make a personal impact, set promises to move forward and identify other women to help them. If you are unwavering in your desire to make a personal difference with your life, show up and get inspired.
Today’s Wednesday Wisdom is to motivate you to step into your unique pink light, purpose and mission to change the world with your personal magnetism and aspirations. We are each gifted with something important to share with others. We have to look inside and recognize it and then make a deliberate decision to embrace what we see and share it with the world.
Can you imagine the amazing power and beauty of each woman in this world sharing her own pink light to make a positive impact? The illumination would be transformational. The world needs you to shine your pink light.
The Need for Women to Be Badass
Inspiration for Women, Women Entrepreneurs, Female Athletes and Girls
Every time I accomplish something new, I feel like a badass. Anytime I am promoting women’s equality like our brave foremothers did or today’s women like Serena Williams, I exclaim my badassness. When I push my limits in a new sport or new distance when I run or see another woman do it, I exclaim them a badass. If you check the Thesaurus there aren’t synonyms for the word badass. I quickly turned to an online dictionary to review the definition which said, “ready to cause or get into trouble” or “of formidable strength or skill” or “very skillful or impressive.”
All three definitions have fit me before. I was badass when I decided to take 110 women to the Women’s March on Washington in 2017 realizing we could get in trouble for marching for our rights just like our foremothers. I was badass when I completed the 2017 Boston Marathon with Team 261 Fearless just like our iconic leader Kathrine Switzer (who was badass in 1967 when she was the first women to official enter and run the Boston Marathon). I am badass when I motivate other women to buy from women entrepreneurs first and foremost putting money in their hands until women ever obtain a pay equality law.
We might think of badass people who ride motorcycles, play hard rock or climb Mt. Everest, but if we look inside ourselves, we can all find moments in our lives and business when we had to be and were badass. So think back for a moment and list your top five badass moments. I hope they easily come to mind but if they don’t think about the word’s three meanings. I am positive you’ll find those moments. Once you have them in your mind, write them down and attach a photo of yourself in your most badass moment and keep it taped to your computer or other place you’ll see it daily.
I decided that women entrepreneurs need some more adventure in their lives to jumpstart the fearful side of their personalities, so not only will our “W.A.N.” which stands for “Women’s Athletic Network” mean that; it will also be used from now on to mean “Women’s Adventure Network” as we add some fun “Bucket List” type of activities, like ziplining, to that division of Women TIES. I believe being brave and daring in life can translate into a braver and daring entrepreneurial warrior.
Until we start listing those adventures, I hope you commit to being more badass in your life until it is the only way you think and live.
Mile Markers Help In Our Daily Business and Sports Life
Inspiration for Women Entrepreneurs, Female Athletes, Females in Sports or Business
If you know me well by reading my blog since 2008, you know I share wisdom inspired by personal interactions in business, participating in sports and being moved by inequality issues related to women. I’m really a simple girl at heart always looking to be motivated in my daily life and then transmitting my feelings in writings to inspire other women.
Today when I was training on my bike for my big bucket list triathlon in September, I cycled on the same beautiful lake path with mile markers showing ones’ progress walking, running or biking. Today for some reason as I started on the 2.75 mile marker of the trail, I paid attention to every mile marker up and back until I clocked a total of 10 miles on my bike. Knowing August 1st is a couple days away, I thought how “far I’d come” this summer in my personal battles dealing with a medical condition called Alopecia and my entrepreneurial work as I purposely took it slow since April giving my body and mind time to heal.
I didn’t know on April 1st how long this “medical sabbatical ride” would take until I reached its end. I realize now it will take to September 1st and I’m more than half way through the trek. All of a sudden, as if time was speeding by faster now, I thought about my April personal and professional goals and what I had or had not achieved. The mile markers reminded me that sometimes people can use mile markers in their own life or business adventures. To use them we need to acknowledge when we are start something, when we are 50% done and when the end is approaching so we can judge our progress or re-adjust our decisions to speed up or slow down.
I had many situations in my entrepreneurial life when I had to put in a lot of extra hours to hit a deadline. A calendar, watch and clients have a way of keeping us on track of our work duties. Often our internal clock tells us when we are behind or ahead of something that’s due. We can’t get to relaxed or too panicked when we sense where are in a process or project. We must instill the tools needed to pace ourselves so we complete any goal in time.
I love those biking mile markers because they automatically signal me on my athletic timeline. I decided I need to set up a better mile marker system in my business so I can see better where I am in that part of my life. How about you? Perhaps today is the day you think about what markers you need in your life to help complete more goals.
The Right to Choose Your Customers
Wednesday Wisdom, Inspiration and Success Strategies for Women Entrepreneurs and Female Business Owners
As an American woman entrepreneur, I have carefully selected my clients and members for two decades. My company which caters specifically to women – and women only – has never been forced to accept men into our midst although some have showed up at events.
In a couple cases when men have shown up at one of a Women TIES event, they left after introducing themselves to the audience feeling peculiar that women were wondering why they were there. They know my brand very well! A few men were brazen enough to stay and network even though they clearly understood the mission. I never found them brave enough to stay all the way through an event, just emboldened enough to make their presence felt. One actually made me frustrated enough with his presence handing out business cards, I left the room walking outside to cool off and give myself a talk about being Catholic first and a feminist second!
So when I heard about the Supreme Court setting aside a Colorado court ruling against the owner of a Colorado Cake Shop who cited religious freedom and wouldn’t make a wedding cake for a same-sex couple, I contemplated the situation and rulings as an entrepreneur first since I could easily face a similar situation one day not allowing men at my events. As an entrepreneur, I feel I have the right to choose who my customers are especially since my business plan, mission and purpose has nothing to do with men.This court case received national attention when the Supreme Court got involved pitting the cake shop owners’ first amendment claims of artistic freedom against the anti-discrimination arguments of the Colorado Civil Rights Commission and turning away the gay couple in 2012. The Denver-area baker cited his Christian faith in refusing to make a cake for their wedding celebration. The baker argued he’s an artist who should not be compelled to create a cake that contradicts his religious views. The Supreme Court decided in his favor 7-2.
Entrepreneurs may or may not have worries about this story, but legal situations like this might arise as our country becomes more polarized in its beliefs, policies and actions. I hope today’s Wednesday Wisdom inspires you to spend time researching and contemplating your personal and business policies, legal rights and actions, before a situation like this occurs in your establishment. Consult a trusted attorney or business adviser if you have questions or concerns.
I will continue to serve only women until a day I am presented with a reason that I am breaking the law by doing so. #women
NOTE: If you would like to meet A.G Coffman or hear more about this case, attend the Seneca Falls Revisited Conference on August 23, 2018. Click here for details.
Invitation, Inspiration and Event News for Women, Women Entrepreneurs, Feminists living in New York State
I was approached to support and promote a very special event for women starting this year and running until 2020 called “Seneca Falls Revisited – A Women’s Equality Conference & Retreat.” I said “YES” immediately because of its mission and purpose to engage women as we approach the historic year 2020 when women celebrate the 100th Anniversary of Women’s Suffrage in America!
Our country is divided on many issues, but I have faith that women working together and supporting pro-female agendas can change the world for the better. It will take women raising their voices, standing passionately behind women’s issues and policies to ensure our country remains concerned about 52% of its population – Women!
The story of this event has many beginnings. Since most of us are Americans and New Yorkers, let’s start in upstate New York with the rebellion known as Suffrage – the dawning of the Women’s Rights movement. 170 years ago, women like Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Susan B. Anthony, Harriet Tubman, and feminist men like Frederick Douglass and many, many others were awakened to this activism, manifesting it in their historic “Temperance” and “Abolitionist” movements. This awareness and understanding proved that women “holistically” – regardless of race, heritage and culture – have endemic common values steeped in what all Americans have defined and revered as their inalienable rights.
70 years of struggle – filled with heart, humanity, anguish and in some cases death – culminated in August 26, 1920 with the ratification of the 19th Amendment to our Constitution. In 1971, our struggle was not yet over and esteemed Activist and Congresswoman Bella Abzug was compelled to rename this day, “Women’s Equality Day” as part of an awareness effort to spotlight the need for yet the next needed step: The passage of an Equal Rights Amendment.
Today, 50 years later, we hope to finally “close” this gap of inequality. With the recent momentum generated via Black Lives Matter, #Me Too, #Times Up and so forth, much like history – movements are a response to stimuli. Whether the catalyst is gender, race, sexual orientation or other, these predestined classifications have inevitable solutions and will require a level of universal “tolerance.”
As we prepare for the Centennial of the 19th Amendment in 2020, we remain confident that we will continue to evolve, learn to work together, collaborate in all areas of society to insure fairness and equality for all.
Join us August 23 – 26 in Rochester, NY to inaugurate “Seneca Falls Revisited: A Women’s Equality Weekend,” an intergenerational celebration of women, family and friends. All are welcome to share, be inspired and network as we celebrate our victories, commonalities and differences.
The conference goals are:
*Update & build civic, social and spiritual collaborative platform
*Target new & young population for civic engagement
*Recruit up and down state participation in women’s advocacy efforts
*Re-Engage audience members in a goal oriented discussion for future advocacy
*Provide educational service for women to learn how to run for office
Amazing Line-Up of National, State & Regional Female Speakers:
This conference features an impressive lineup of women in politics, business, activism and feminism including special opening luncheon speaker Attorney General Cynthia H. Coffman.
In 2016, Roll Call named Coffman one of the Most Influential Women in State Politics and in 2017 Law Week Colorado named AG Coffman one of the Top Women Attorneys. Coffman fought to outlaw so-called conversion therapies and her office going to the Supreme Court to defend the State’s decision to punish the Lakewood Baker who refused to make wedding cake for a gay couple.
Some of the Major Speakers Include:New York State Lieutant Governor Kathy Hochul
Attorney General Cynthia H. Coffman
Honorable Crystal Peoples-Stokes
Rochester Mayor Lovely Warren
Honorable Gale A. Brewer
Honorable Nathalia Fernandez

Other Presenters:
Liz Abzug, Founder/Executive Director of Bella Abzug Leadership Institute, Inc
Charlsey Baumeier, National Business Development Officer
Rachel DeGuzman, President & CEO of 21st Century Arts and ARTivist in Residence at Gallery Seventy Four
Natalie Douglas, Nightclub Diva, an eight-time MAC Award winner
Deborah Hughes, Director, Susan B. Anthony House
Linda Lattimore, Lawyer, Corporate Executive and Business Strategist
Alexandra Lehman, Coalition Z (activism org. amplifying voices of progressive youth)
Irma McClaurin, PhD/MFA, Leadership Strategist and Past President of Shaw University
Kenneth Morris, Great-Great-Great Grandson of Frederick Douglass and Great-Great-Grandson of Booker T. Washington.
Tracy Chamberlain Higginbotham, President, Women TIES & Women’s Athletic Network
I hope to see you during this powerful weekend where women will bond, celebrate, plan, and emerge ready to take on the world and proclaim our right to vote again in 2020!
The Meaning of the ESPY Moment For Women and Girls
Inspiration and wisdom for women, women entrepreneurs, women in business and female athletes

ESPY Awards Honor Team USA, MSU Gymnastics Sex Abuse Survivors: ‘We May Suffer Alone, But We Survive Together’
Sometimes serendipity strikes in an instant, the way it did this morning waking up to a major news story and a spur of the moment action yesterday afternoon. Let me paint the images for you.
The first image is of 140 survivors of sexual abuse by a USA Gymnastics and Michigan State University team doctor as they accepted the Arthur Ashe Award for Courage at the ESPYs. These women stood hand in hand, shoulder to shoulder, together to show a powerful union of sisterhood. They spoke about the child within them finally releasing the shadows and pain of their formative years in hopes of healing and protecting the next generation of young girls. It took 30 years for an adult to acknowledge what a girl finally told them and to start the investigation. 30 years!
The second image is of a sweet girl named Bailey, a daughter of a women entrepreneur from my network, who was selling lemonade, homemade chocolate chip cookies and homemade crafts to earn money. Bailey was selling her items in a neighboring area so I jumped in my car and headed over to buy from her to prove that women support girls. I brought along a pink money bag that said “Girlboss” tucked inside was a pair of my company’s iconic pink glasses, that represent seeing ways to support women and girls. I also had $10 I was going to spend no matter what Bailey’s items cost; because I believe women need to monetarily support other women and girls.
I have two beautiful twenty year old sons but when I ran in the Boston Marathon in 2017 with iconic female runner Kathrine Switzer on Team 261Fearless, I inked my five nieces’ names on my arm – Lexie, Faith, Lauren, Ramona and Maude. I was running for them and their future the way Kathrine has done for women the past 50 years since her gender barrier breaking Boston Marathon appearance in 1967. Women learn from women older than them and from their own generation. Women also inspire the generation to follow.
When Bailey attached the beautiful bright pink bracelet around my wrist, I looked at her with her new Women TIES pink glasses on smiling and my pink spirit rose up knowing I had inspired one young girl for one moment in time. Later that day her mother sent me a message saying, “You made Bailey’s day!” As I listened this morning to the ESPYs YouTube video of the survivors on the ESPY stage last night, I know they made other women or girls day with their strength, truth and sharing.
There are a million ways women can lift up other women or girls every single day. We can lift up boys too but there is something extra special about supporting the next generation of women with our compassion, interest and support of them today. Be a woman who supports girls every way you can and show your sons how to do it right so there is never a need for 140 girls to go on stage to share any type of abuse. I believe strong women can inspire the next generation of strong women.
Wednesday Wisdom: Communication The Right Way
Wednesday Wisdom, Inspiration and Business Success Strategies for Women Entrepreneurs and Female Business Owners
American women will celebrate the National Suffrage Centennial in 2020. New York State women celebrated their 100th Suffrage Anniversary last year. As I witnessed the speaking topics being delivered in 2017 Centennial events, I noticed a missing presentation topic. The topic was about women in sports and what has or more importantly has not advanced the past 100 years for women athletes. As an athletic enthusiast and supporter of women in sports through our five year old Women’s Athletic Network, 261Fearless.Org and Syracuse University, I wanted to create a presentation on the subject to enlighten women in 2019 and 2020.
Having found myself on medical sabbatical the past three months with plenty of time to think and write, I started the research for a presentation (now deemed project) by interviewing female athletes in all levels and types of sports. One of the women I spoke with was Shawn Cheshire, a blind onetime paralympian cyclist who competed in the Rio Olympic Games in 2016 and lived in Central New York until a few years ago. Shawn has competed at the National and International levels in multiple para-sports, including adaptive rowing, adaptive biathlon, and tandem road para-cycling. She is short of amazing.
As I prepared to interview Shawn over the phone, she taught me a business lesson I wanted to share with you today. I sent her the questions in advance when she said, “I can’t read the questions because they are in an attachment which is not ‘voice over compatible.'” I apologized and told her I never communicated with a blind person before. Seeing-impaired people can read email messages but not attachments unless they are “voice over compatible” so they can hear what the attachment says. I never knew about this technology or the use of it.
Unless we have a physical impairment, accident or medical situation that occurs to us, we don’t consider how communication can work better for others in our community. My mother taught dance to the deaf, so I am aware of sign language and can use it. There are also sign language interpreters for events, meetings and in hospitals.
We all by now understand what physical structures or adaptations we need entering our workplace and in common spaces to accommodate handicap individuals and older clients visiting us. There are numerous handicap laws but yesterday was the first time I contemplated communicating with a seeing-impaired person in 23 years of business. Does that mean a blind woman can’t read this blog post unless I use the proper technology?
Today’s Wednesday Wisdom might motivate you to look outside your own world and see what might be missing to make your business easier to work with if someone has a specific impairment like deafness, blindness or physical handicaps. It took this amazing blind paralympian to simply inform me what I needed to do to communicate with her. The photo of Shawn above is her hiking in the Grand Canyon with her friends!
If you have time these hot days of summer, create a list of ways your business can become more accommodating to customers with special needs so you both can do business together. We don’t want to miss potential clients because we are unaware of what it takes to communicate and work with them better.












